Long story short, my husband and I have decided to open up our relationship. Mainly because I have needs that are not being met, and I am needing to explore my sexual self. Within the past several years, I have realized more and more that I am an extremely experimental person sexually, and that I need verity in my sex life in order to be fully satisfied. I have known that I have been kinky for some time, but in the past several years it's become more and more of a thing for me. I enjoy vanilla sex, but I have just vanilla sex all the time. So I feel a little lost, as I haven't dated or hooked up for over 7 years, much less tried to seek out kink specific relationships/hookups. I think for sure I'd like to be a daddy dom, and collar a boy, although I want to keep it more open and casual I guess? I also want to play with my submissive side just for a scene or two. I don't want to be owned by anyone. I also want to try being a top because up until this point I've almost always been the bottom.

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I just need someone to teach me how to be a dom, because I really have no idea what I'm doing. I feel more confident than I used to, so I think I could be a good dom with some time and training. Especially because I want to be a more nurturing and supportive kind of dom. I'd like to collar someone younger, mainly because I think I could be a good person to help boost their confidence, and help teach them valuable life skills. I really do want to be a Daddy, and provide structure for my sub. I'm just feeling a bit overwhelmed at being able to see other people again, and I'm not sure where to start. I joined fetlife, just because I want to be able to connect with people in my local area, but I thought I would post here too. I'm mostly wanting to vent, but I also would appreciate any advice anyone has. I'm a gay trans man, which most likely will make finding partners a little tricky, but I have hope anyway.