I wanna start by saying this is not about people simply stating their limits. Its about the way its said, and how they demonize/talk about brats. I've seen it a lot here and in other kink/bdsm spaces.

There seems to be a common ideology among a lot of kinksters saying that brats are all childish, obnoxious, bad/not real subs, abusers, manipulators, dont understand consent, just generally bad people etc. I think it's not only unfair to paint an entire group of people in that way (just like it would be to say all doms are abusers or manipulators) but I think that these people don't know what bratting is? they think it's all about breaking rules and ignoring boundaries. I think a lot of doms who say this also expect ALL subs to behave in a hyper submissive way in the sense that they don't talk back, listen to exactly what they're told, in a very "yes sir" always kind of way which is unrealistic.

If you don't want to play with brats its fine, obviously you're allowed to have your limits. but saying that brats are abusers or don't understand consent is not okay, even if you've had bad experiences with brats. every sub I know has had a bad experience with a dom but don't go around saying all doms are abusers and manipulators and don't understand consent. don't play with brats if you don't want to. but don't call them abusers because you don't like/understand their dynamic.