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Here is my situation and any advice is welcome. Thanks in advance.The bond we share: We have been friends for a few months. We both had made it clear that both are neither romantically nor sexually interested in each other. She also mentioned that she finds the kink lifestyle repulsive but respects others' love for it. Recently, while having a discussion, the topic of FLR came up and she casually googled it. She read about it and has developed a liking for it. I was always open with her about me being a submissive and that too a service sub. After reading about FLR, she looked further into Service sub and related stuff. Now, she doesn't mind this lifestyle and is open to taking me as her sub. Being a service sub it gives me immense pleasure to be of any use for the domme. Even a simple chore under her orders would put me in subspace and it is erotic to me.
The issue: This is not at all sexual for her nor does she want a submissive man. She wants a normal relationship minus the chores. I'd love it to be the way she wants regarding everything(with her as a domme). The thing is that the power exchange means nothing to her. Also, she calls herself super lazy and yes she is lazy. In a way, it adds value to my service if you see it that way.
Being from a conservative society(India), this is a rare opportunity.
- Should I be getting into this knowing that she gets no sexual gratification from power exchange and FLR?
I understand it's supposed to be all about her but it also feels like I am being accepted just for the work I put in. The desire from the other party is missing.
- How important is it that the other person desires power in the relationship or enjoys it?I believe this would need a lot more info. I'll answer in the comments whenever needed. There is a lot on my mind though.
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