i am not very experienced in bdsm and i am mostly still in an experimental phase where i still have to try out lots of stuff before i know wether or not i actually like it,,, and most of the stuff i wanna try is there because it looks cool and it seems like it could be an interesting experience psychologically speaking.

i guess i fully realised it when talking to my therapist abt it, and now i feel a little shallow for it. for example, i really wanna try rope bondage both as a dom and a sub because tying someone up/getting tied up sounds like a very contemplative experience and it looks extremely beautiful to me, and to know that i can look like that or i can make someone look like that seems very satisfying (obv it looks very erotic and seems very sexually appealing, but it's very much an afterthought for.me)

does anyone else feel similarly?? i know rationally not all play is sexual and that you dont really need a deep reason to like what you like, but it can be a little hard to believe sometimes. especially when the ppl around you still believe the more stigmatising misconceptions abt kink (not talking abt my therapist or my closest friends luckily lol)