I don't necessarily know if this is the right place for this post, but I don't know where else to put it.

I am a 37 (38 in 4 months) year old, AFAB, trans-masc, gender nonconforming, non-binary person. I am very open about all of this, all of the time, as I feel that it is important for potential play or LTR partners to know what all they are getting into.

I am also a submissive type who has fairly unexplored little/middle and pet tendencies with a wide variety of kinky interests. I tend to lean towards desiring a male or non-binary Dominant (cis or FtM), but am open to anyone if our interests overlap and we get along.

I am always very open about wanting there to be open, honest communication and mutual respect...all the things that you should want and expect from a healthy dynamic. I've posted on just about every conceivable dating app (kinky or otherwise), as well as personals groups on FetLife and a subreddit here.

And just...the amount of interest my profiles and posts generate is non-existent. No one reaches out to me, and if they do the effort put into communication will start out ok, and then taper off into a laughable (or tragic) amount of ghosting.

I have gone to my local munch. It was all people significantly older than me (the topic of conversation was attending a Jimmy Buffet concert, my favorite band is Motionless in White lol); and despite my best effort to participate in the conversation, I was treated like I was invisible.

My "local" kink scene beyond that one munch is an hour drive in one of 2 directions. I cannot afford the gas it would cost to get to 1 night of going to the "local" kink club night, or the "local" monthly party I get invited to...which tbh is more of an excuse for a bunch of my old friends to get together and do drgs than it is an actual kink event (meaning, I know most everyone there, and no kink happens, just a lot of drgs).

At this point, I feel like I am never going to find anyone interested in me as a submissve (let alone a romantic partner). I don't know where else to look/try, or how to change my approach. Am I taking this too seriously? Am I not acting slutty enough in my posts? Am I getting to old? Is it because I'm trans? I legitimately don't know and it's making me feel AWFUL about myself all of the time.

So...advice? Insight? Help of literally any sort at this point, because right now I am convinced I am going to end up alone with 47 cats. Why 47? I don't know. I just like that number.

Sorry for the length of this post, and thank you to anyone who actually replies. I'm at a loss, and I'm sad about it.