Hello!! As stated in title, I (27F) am new to being in the more dominant position. I have a sex partner who is really into it and who encourages me to explore that part of myself. I usually lean way submissive so this is very new to me and sometimes I’m not quite sure what to do.

My partner likes a domme who is more mommy dom-ish than like a pain dominatrix. He likes for me to do the basic things like pull his hair, slap him a little, scratch him, bite him, restrain him etc. We are also starting to move towards the pegging and assplay direction.

Here’s where I struggle: I don’t always know how to talk down to him or how to “punish” him. He seems to respond well to comments like “you’re such a good fuck toy for me” and “good boy” but beyond that I lose creativity. Then, besides spanking, I’m not really sure how to punish him.

He is also new to this so when I ask him more about his preferences he’s not really sure.

So, tldr: how do I dirty talk and punish as a domme?