I met this guy on Fet, and we hung out 2-3 times to build connection and rapport. In between we would talk dirty, likes and don’t likes and previous experiences.

So the way he portrayed himself, and spoke to experiences led me to believe he’s done this before and I would have a good time.

We finally hook up on Friday and it was completely vanilla. I don’t want to sound harsh but I really feel like my time was wasted and I gained a number for no reason. Obviously, I was not looking for vanilla and emphasized that previous experience is important to me for a good play.

I was bummed after we were done and I got dressed to leave but the disparity was so loud I know he felt something. I don’t want him to feel bad or to hurt his feelings and I don’t want to say he was deceptive but we were not on the same page. I’m not sure if I want to see him again, but also want to give him a chance and not offend him with my feedback.

How would you proceed and how would you provide the feedback?

I also don’t mentor at all. If I have to give the basic guidance for his role then I’m turned off.