I (F) have recently got into a relationship with a female sub and discovered my domme side ( I've always been the submissive in previous relationships).

My partner is into pretty much all the basic hard dom kinks - degradation, choking, being restrained, humiliation etc. Since I've been a sub (and into similar things) for a long time, I have no issues imagining and providing the sort of experience she wants.

However, the problem is that kinks like degradation or CNC are very masculine-coded in my head. It's difficult for me to degrade her without pretending I'm a man, or at least a penis owner. So I'll find myself telling her about using her as a cocksleeve, coming inside her etc.

Even though she's into it, it doesn't feel quite authentic to me. But I can't seem to come up with a plausible dynamic where a woman would degrade/violate another woman in that way. What would be my motivation for penetrating her (for example), if she didn't want it/ it didn't make her feel good?

Basically, I can't seem to visualize what kinks like CNC look like in a sexual relationship between two women. What can I do to feel more genuinely connected to our scenes?