(Earlier I posted this in the sexual assault subreddit with definitions)

So years ago when I was a man (that is only my experience, please never say to other trans women that they had been men - most of us never were) I had a boyfriend online for just a few days. The short length is because he abused me - I usually have longer term relationships.

Anyway, at the beginning of the relationship, we were discussing what we were into. I said I was a Dom (which I still use as opposed to Domme bc of my masculinity) and he said he was too.

This should have ended the chat in terms of romance right there, since it's very obvious that we were incompatible.

Unfortunately, for whatever reason, he instead chose to use his words to force me to be a sub. I acquiesced and did some stuff but found it very difficult to relate to being a sub, as I am not one. Plus add in the abuse that I just mentioned.

After a few days of this stuff, I blocked him as I had already sometime before this read up on abuse in BDSM, and understood that this was wrong of him to do.