Edit: We didn’t start this dynamic married, we agreed that marriage would align with collating when ready. Also, after I posted this I decided to go over our contract on google docs (that is long overdue) and add comments for him to see and to discuss in person after work.

I am a (26F) married to my HusDom (34M). He’s never had a major sex drive, and I have pointed out in our two sessions of couples therapy that I feel like I always have to initiate. Tonight he said he wanted to have sex (it’s been over a month since we have and I pointed that out recently) and I told him I wasn’t in the headspace…he didn’t even try to get me into a sexy mood/woo me. When I pointed it out he said he never does. We agreed after our first therapy session he’d try a sex therapist since we know it’s not a hormonal issue (got tested). I’m so frustrated.

Then he goes to point out and have me make the bed since I didn’t this morning, I make it, then says afterwards punishments will start again if I don’t. I have to get up, take care of and walk dogs in the freezing cold, then get myself ready for work while he just gets to up and go. I lost my shit.

What do I do? How do I fix this?