I would like some guidance if at all possible. I am an experienced Dom and I am very nurturing by nature. I am always very aware of boundaries and safety for any play partner.

But…

I’m concerned that I “check in” too much during scenes.

I believe in autonomy and that ultimately the responsibility to express boundaries and needs are for each individual. How do I ensure a submissive is feeling “safe” without keep asking?

I think this issue is informed by an experience I had years ago where a submissive didn’t use a safe word when she should have and then expressed that she should have after the scene.

As I’m currently looking for an online partner this is something I’d like to have some sort of handle on before engaging in play that could be more extreme in nature.

Any thoughts are welcome