(The following questions are also the tldr. Feel free to skip after this first paragraph): Has anyone seen a kink/sex friendly therapist before?

How was your experience with that? Was it worth it finding one that is definitely kink/sex friendly if you also have other mental health issues? Did you also talk about other issues with them or see them for mental health issues as well? Did you see them as a long term therapist or short term?

I have been in therapy for a while now, but I have pretty much never talked about kink or sex. Kink was brought up very minimally once because I HAD to (I was in an abusive relationship and that played a part in the abuse unfortunately). And even then, I was very vague and didn’t get into it, I only told her what I NEEDED to tell her. I’ve talked about sex minimally when discussing my trauma and when I was first exploring my sexuality, but those were pretty minimal. I didn’t get deep into it, pretty because I didn’t feel comfortable.

I am looking for a new therapist, and I found one that is primarily a sex therapist, she does a bunch of topics related to that, and she is also kink friendly. She also works with patients with other issues though too, which is important to me because I do have several mental health diagnoses.

I was really drawn to her because of that. There are so many things I’d like to delve into with a therapist relating to sex and kinks that I have just never felt comfortable doing. But at the same time, I do have other significant mental health issues that I will need to talk about and work on. Even though a large part of the reason I haven’t talked about sex or kink with a therapist before is because I was uncomfortable, part of it has also been because I had more important things to talk about. Usually sex and kink topics can wait, whereas often my mental health issues cannot. I also am not in a relationship or seeing anyone right now, and if I do get into a relationship, sex and kink WOULD eventually need talked about more urgently. Which is part of why I want to see a sex/kink friendly therapist! I want to feel comfortable talking about those things.

I don’t know. I am just worried I am prioritizing her just because I have never gotten to talk about these topics, when really I might need a therapist that has more experience with mental health issues. She might be well experienced in both, and that would be ideal! That’s why I would like to hear y’all’s experiences, especially if you also have other issues you worked with them on.

Thanks :)