Hey everyone! I am a male dom exploring a blossoming D/s online relationship with a wonderful female sub, and we're in the phase of getting to know one another, chatting everyday, sexting, learning our limits and desires, and trying our best to make the most of the dynamic while dealing with the challenges of being long distance. It has been absolutely amazing so far, and we really enjoy each others' company.

One particular hurdle we're finding some difficulty with is my sub's bit of insecurity about her physique. I do find her very attractive, and I try to reassure her of this often, but she has been shy about showing much of her body, usually cropping photos and videos she sends me so that I cannot see much of her mid section. She's been trying her best to be a good sub, and I've been trying my best to be an understanding and patient dom, but I can tell that it is causing a bit of tension between us because she feels like she cannot show proof of performing certain tasks or punishments to my satisfaction. I've done a lot of research and think-tanking to come up with tasks and activities that do not require her to show that part of her body too much, but I also want to challenge her to be confident and feel sexy about herself. I've tried to reassure her with loving words, letting her know that I will not judge her.

I'm the type of dom that wants to help my sub have holistic improvement and guidance in life, as well as get into some pretty kinky and borderline cruel stuff. She has expressed enthusiastic consent to all of this. I created tasks and rules that revolve around 3 main tenents: Mind, Body, and Connection. The "Body" tenent focuses on working out, and I do want to challenge her because I believe she wants that too, but she is having a hard time completing the tasks and/or showing proof of completing them. She's also having a hard time showing proof of doing sexual tasks or punishments that require the whole body. This is starting to build unwanted tension because I am having a hard time considering these as failures to complete tasks when I know they deal with an issue that she is actually insecure about at the core. Like, do I follow through with punishments for not completing the task, or do I comfort her because I know she feels bad? And for her, I don't want her feeling like she disappointed me all the time. We want this dynamic to be primarily affectionate and positive, but still provide strict guidance and discipline.

She told me today that my body makes her feel a little insecure, because I do keep in excellent shape and workout often. But, she also really enjoys seeing my body and I like to reward her with clear pics and videos of myself that don't hide much of my physique. I can also tell from what she does show me that she isn't obese or anything, maybe just a bit curvy with some extra. I am not rail thin, but I am muscular and my muscles show under pretty low body fat. How can I help her feel comfortable and confident to show me more of herself? I want to earn her trust and eventually help her feel comfortable enough to expose herself entirely to me. That vulnerability and trust is such a turn on for me.

I know this is pretty specific because it is online and deals with a very specific issue, but I'm curious if anyone on here has had thoughts or experience on similar issues? Thanks for reading!