Me (M61) moved in with my amazing partner (F42) last September. She is a very strong willed brat sub but has also been a Dom. I have had a few online subs and a 12 year relationship with a "sub" who thought being a sub was just laying there and allowing me to do anything I wanted to her sexually. So, technically, I am a very inexperienced Dom with bucket loads of self doubts, minimal self value or esteem and I am finding it difficult to live the life I have dreamed of for so long, to be a 24/7 total control Dom. We have had many discussions about this over the past 10 months with my sub even giving me advice and directions as to how to be the Dom I want to be, even at risk of me using it against her. We are deeply in love and are an amazing couple, but how do I live the lifestyle we both want, and need.