hi! I’ve been getting pretty serious with a guy, I’ve been talking to him for a few months and I see things going further. I haven’t really told him about my interest in bdsm and what I have done in the past. I really don’t want a vanilla relationship, especially since I’ve been able to explore more with bdsm and figure out what I actually like. I’ve been trying to arrange more times to play and explore. At the same time, I don’t feel like he would he able to fulfill all of my needs. I do really like him though.

I’ve told him some of my kinks, but I don’t want to scare him. He seems interested in them and has played with the idea of them, but how long should I wait to tell him everything?