So... been in the scene for a while now, and starting to see different sides and aspects of BDSM, many of which are interesting, stuff I appreciate and understand more of as I have gotten older (and wiser :3).

This one, however, I can't seem to 100% accept, cue title card (that means look up to the title). Now that said, I have had partners who didn't want to include sex in our play sessions. Was I fine with it, yeah... for like three sessions. Afterwards, I started to get a blue ball feelings, and end up starting to feel unsatisfied, and good things start to get ruined (I take responsibility for that one).

Do I like sex on its own? Yes

Do I like BDSM (more specifically sadomasochism) on its own? Yes

Do I find sex with BDSM better than just one without the other? Absolutely

Thinking about it, could be that I have always associated BDSM with sex, so that could have some correlation to it.

That said, I am looking to know more and better myself. So that said:

1. As a Dom/Top/Sadist, do I need to separate sex from BDSM?
2. If yes to the 1st question, any suggestions on steps to approaching this?