I (20M) am seeing a FWB (21M) for my birthday. He finally agreed to try out some kinks because he knew that I was interested and he has wanted to be a Dom.

We both agreed that this would be a sober session so no poppers, weed, or alcohol.

He wanted to try being a rope master, I wanted to try being bound. I wanted to try impact play and he was more than willing to be the striker.

I bought a basic bitch BDSM kit but I wanted to know what should I add to it? It came with a simple flog but what other striking implements should I add? It also came with a small length of rope (probably 10 yards) but how much do I actually need and what books or guides (digital or physical) do you guys recommend for first timers?

Also, outfits. What do we recommend? Can't get good rubber kit at the moment and he isn't feeling leather. Should I just get the classic knee socks, jock strap and harness combo? Collar or no collar? And what should he wear? How should we conduct ourselves? He's about 5'6", slender, dark black hair and olive skinned. I'm about 5'8", slightly overweight, black hair, almond skinned.

I doubt this will be a one time thing so I want to start this off right.

Kit I bought before is below.

BDSM Restraints Sex Toys 14 Pcs Bondage Restraints Set Fetish Bed Restraints Kits for Beginners Light SM Adult Games Safe BDSM Cuffs Nipple Clamps Flogger Ball Gag Blindfold Rope Black Cosplay https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07P65K6JQ/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_i_T9HEXF438YW744ZWN387?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1

Sex Bondage BDSM Kit UTIMI Restraints Set Sex Toys with Hand Cuffs Ankle Cuff Bondage Collection & Blindfold & Tickler Included https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00N8C14WU/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_i_PR54PPR56GBR3TBZTB1H?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1