I'm trying to figure out how to communicate with partners about an activity that we've both said we're interested in but then it never happens. I obviously don't want to pressure my partner, but I also want to communicate openly.

For example, I tried boot worship with my ex one time and it was really great. She even described it a few weeks later as the best sex she ever had, but then it never happened again. I brought it up occasionally over the next couple years but she never really showed interest in it again. She always said she liked it but I guess never thought to do it.

I'm kinda in a similar situation now with one of my partners, where they brought up an interest in somno and I said I was really into it and I explained my limits, but it's been a few months and they haven't initiated. Especially with something cnc related and for my first time, I'd like to have an idea when it's going to happen but I don't want to bring it up in a way that makes them feel pressured or makes them think I'm not interested. I think they might just be nervous, or the timing hasn't been right and I want to reassure then that I'm interested, but also need a bit of a heads up too. I just want to know what to expect.

Any suggestions?