Hey everyone,

I'd consider myself an inexperienced dom outside of some previous boyfriends but I connected with an experienced heteroflexible sub on Recon. I've typically been with gay men so trying to figure out how to navigate this scene. Some boundaries: no kissing, BJs, or penile penetration.

He enjoys being restrained and played with so the first time we met we were using thigh/wrist restraints, whip flogger, small plugs, ball gag and blindfold. I have some rope but zero experience so we've been sticking to the restraints. Next time he mentioned wanting to try a collar , bigger plugs and a pecker gag.

I guess I'm just not sure what I want from this relationship. He has mentioned trying anal in the past but needs time to practice and feel comfortable. I don't really need to penetrate him but I love BJs and kissing so it feels difficult for me to connect with him. I do miss the dynamic I had with previous boyfriends and perhaps I'm looking for an emotional connection when he is looking for a physical one. I think I'm too caught up on his heteroflexible orientation when I'm used to daddy-type relationship with previous partners.

I do enjoy seeing him and think I can learn a lot from the dynamic but insecure about my lack of experience and creativity. I plan on talking with him before the next scene but does anyone have any advice or suggestions? Thanks