I so loved my husband so much more when i encouraged him to open up to and encourage his submissive cross dressing kinky side. I'm bi so i love to see my hubby looking like my sexy girlfriend.

Problem is that while I totally love how hot he looks and love the idea of sharing this kinky side with our close friends, for him it's something so embarrassing he kept it secret his whole life. But at the same time every time he gets high and dresses up for me he keeps trying to think of little ways push the humiliation angle as for him it's both overwhelmingly scary but also a big part of what turns him on. He gets creative too, draws comics and writes erotic stories for hours, and we have great sex. But in the sober light of day he forgets all about it, won't talk about it, and is purely embarrassed, nothing more. Should i encourage him or see it as a bad habit, something he should quit since he only likes it when high? (Though he clearly gets high so that he can allow himself to like it! Really, shouldn't I help him to admit that he likes it, without needing to get high?)

And then there is the social/political question... For instance tonight he asked me to take some pics of him dressed up and acting like a slut and create a femdom post and ask the girls to give him a proper roasting for being such a submissive slut. Every time he gets a little high he can't stop begging to humiliate himself, essentially, by looking like a girl - should i be offended, as a feminist? He is so sweet and not at all sexist so i see it as him fighting social norms...