It doesn't make sense - or does it? Tldr at the end.

I've met that dom last year or so. Worth mentioning that I'm a guy as well. We had a very brief and kinky chat, he picked me up in a cab and we went to his place where he lived with his 2 brothers. Place was an absolute mess. We smoked some cigs and had some beer and would go to the other room for a sesh and then come back. Chemistry was great, and he didn't even do anything specific, or looked that great, but his whole bullying attitude and "you better do exactly as you're told" just got me crazy - but afterwards. While being there I kept feeling weird and kinda threatened. He was very much like "you're mine now, you're my boyfriend, sub and slave", even though we knew each other only for a few hours. We started drinking some vodka at some point and it was getting more and more intense. Somehow he knew exactly how to push my buttons and I felt stimulated all the time, even if not exactly horny at the time. He did few things I was not into, like breath play, but even though we didn't have a safe word, he would eventually stop after I said firmy few times I'm not into it.

So it was going alright, but I kept feeling more and more like something was off. He was very curious about my plans for the weekend, me in general and what's in my wallet (?!). When I didn't want to tell him, he wanted me to wear a dress and kneel in the other room where his brothers and some lady where. At that point I was like "fuck, that's too much". I stood up, he tried to stop me, said that he was abused as a child by his father. We chatted for a bit, he offered me to snuggle with him, but I was firmly sure that I should leave.

I left. He blocked me everywhere. I wanked several times to that, the same night. Never had better more intense sesh.

Tldr: met a guy, had a very intense, alcohol fuelled sesh, while his mom(?!) and brothers were in the other room. He was intrusive with questions and when I didn't want to answer he wanted to punish me by involving his family. We stopped, he shared personal stuff, I left, he blocked me. One year later I can't stop being turned on by what happened.

So wtf?!