I’ve been with my Dom for well over a year now. Our relationship with each other is close and special, he is my boyfriend also. We have endured drama after drama that has put serious limitations on our D/s and vanilla parts of our relationship going on 4 months now. We have an easily triggered housemate who has suffered recent bdsm/sexual trauma. It killed our intimacy and seriously limited our ability to just organically express our dynamic as we always had. We started expressing our dynamic less subtly in public outside home to counter this feeling of repression and it worked a little. We were starting to get somewhere.

Then I got sick, had an emergency surgery and my Dom looks at me like he might break me if he touches me. It’s been hard. I’m getting better and I am looking for advice on what I can do. I feel lost without service. I miss impact play and I know I’ll be back to square one again. I need ideas on expressing our dynamic in ways that will ease my Dom back into the right mindset.