Hello everyone. I’m fairly new to kink as I’ve done a bit of research and talked to several people but have never actually practiced it in person. That’s about to change, as I’m talking to a lovely and very experienced sub. We’re both into the same kind of thing: affectionate, sensual femdom. Not degrading or humiliating. And I’m excited to finally get to explore my domme tendencies and fantasies.

My question is, how do I just relax about the whole thing? I feel really nervous about saying or doing the wrong thing, or there being a silence that I don’t know how to fill. I’m very satisfied with the level of communication I have with this sub, he’s been very transparent about how he wants to help me explore and how there’s practically nothing I could do to hurt him or ruin it for him. But I still feel like I’m trying to memorise lines for a play that I haven’t rehearsed. How do I get out of my own head about this?