• It's dated.

• It's clunky.

• There's zero housekeeping.

• And locally, it's shit (I believe due to zero housekeeping).

There's more but these four things are tearing it down from the inside. Over the years 10 we've used it as we navigated all sorts of stuff and it's just gotten worse and worse. I hate to give it up but maybe it's time.

The past few years we got into non-monogamy shit and we've seen what good sites can do and bring.(We're not really doing non-monogamy now due to COVID, so no, we're not using Fetlife "incorrectly" and trying to find hookups.) There are two main swinger sites here people use. On the good swinger site, people want to engage and converse and share and meet and it's active still despite COVID. On the bad site, it's garbage folks who don't want to engage or talk beyond, "Let's Fuck". Good site is newer, has active moderators, isn't clunky, and clean. If Fetlife had competion, it's hard to believe peeps wouldn't jump ship over to it like the swingers did.

Fetlife is just a joke at this point. My city has something like 60,000 members but only about 300 of them are active. Of those 300, it's like 250 guys looking to hookup. Serious. Most of the "members" are dead accounts that haven't shown activity in at least four years. Why doesn't fetlife just remove these?

In the past three months I've reported seven fake profiles. All are still up. Three were celebrities, two were stolen pictures that I found through Google image search, and two I found on other profiles. I was annoyed and just started plugged some in. Maybe twenty one in l night and this is what I found. Fetlife don't care.

"Look outside your city" right? Cool, I'll just pop into some groups. Yeah, either all guys trying to find hookups or it's so noisy that it's idiotic to try and keep up. These forums where you can't even delete them. And they're so dated. 1997 AOL is calling. Lol

"Go to a munch" you say? We did pre-COVID and guess what? Mostly single thirsty dudes. Now that we're on full COVID quarantine, not happening either way.

I'd love for Fet to be better and I'd love for it to work like it did years ago but come on, can't Fet update and fix this shit or is there another option?