Hey folks, started a convo last night that made me want to get some guidance and feedback so: here I am!

A little background, I've spent the last year or so actively dating (well COVID excluding...) post a decade long LTR and have really enjoyed the proactive exploration of my sexuality particularly my dominant side.

One of the things that got me more comfortable about kicking down the gates was formally learning about aftercare which really helped me bridge the gap/reduce shame between who I want to be day to day and in the bedroom (or other fun places).

Last night, I was texting with a FWB about experiences we would like with each other and others and she mentioned wanting a "true dom". Now this is a role I'm very curious in embracing for myself and my partners but I want to make sure I do the work and don't just claim/pursue it recklessly (i.e. not having concepts like aftercare as part of my toolkit) . So my questions are:

• What are the resources you recommend to healthily develop the skills and traits needed to be an ideal play or lifestyle dom?
• What are the pitfalls both in mindset and action I should be mindful of?
• Are there any resources specific to PoCs? I'm tall, bear build, mixed race black dude so there are some additional layers to navigate in this space...

Really appreciate any feedback/guidance and looking forward to learning more from this community.