I've been struggling with this question lately as I'm searching for someone to spank and punish me from time to time. Although I want the spanking to be completely non-sexual, I know that my body will respond with arousal. I've corresponded with several potential spankers (both male and female) that have also admitted that they would be aroused while spanking me. I would hope and expect that my spanker would be able to ignore both their and my arousal and just punish me as needed but I'm so wound up about this issue that it's keeping me from actually taking the step to meet someone. Has anyone been in the same shoes before? Has it stayed purely platonic without any lines being crossed by either party? I guess I'm just looking for reassurance.