Hi all!

So for context my wife and I are experienced kinksters. I am a Dom, shes a switch. We are also polyamorous. My wife and I have a more non sexual D/s dynamic based around respect. When we have sex it's more animalistic or we are co-topping our submission partners.

Recently she has been dating and playing with someone else, with my clear blessing. She has been playing a more sexually submissive role with them. I am extremely happy for her!

Now here's my issue, after she scenes with him she drops hard. Now he is new to kink and he tries very hard to deal with the drop and provides aftercare etc., I do not fault him at all. However, my wife comes home with me and often my GF and we are not sure how to handle it. I always practice aftercare but only when I have caused it. Some of her drop comes from feeling like shes betrayed me, so that I can reassure her over.

I was wondering if anyone else has experienced this kind of thing and how to help deal with it?

Thanks in advance!