Hi. I really need some help.

I'm a dom and I met that amazing sub a few months ago. He was just starting, while I was more experienced, but never engaged romantically in bdsm.

We had great connection online and our first meetings were beyond amazing: both sexually and interpersonally. He was extremely uplifting and we felt just right together. Online communication was really good, we'd talk about everything, I'd give my sub some rules to follow and he'd keep me updated how it goes.

All was great until he started backing off. Less and less contact, white lies, excuses. He warned me he's got attachment and personal  issues and shared some detail, it's deeply rooted. But I brushed it off. He also said he's really into me. But well, I already managed to get so much into him, that I panicked. While I panicked I've lost most of my dominant aspects towards him - I became overly caring and cautious with what I say and do - mostly in life, but also in sex. So the traditional roles of sub being dependent on the dom kinda got reversed. I am dependant on him and his difficult moods. It's not extreme, we're still slowly progressing, meeting kind of regularly, but I live in constant stress, losing confidence, thinking about him too much, how to help him and how to get back to what we had in the beginning. I feel like I'm being dommed by a misbehaving child. I don't want to play by his rules exclusively while suffering myself, but also I don't want come across as insensitive (can't do it anyway, I'm soft jelly for him).

What can I do? Cutting ties completely is out of question, I promised I won't give up on him, but perhaps a break, although difficult, would help and make him miss and value me more? I'm missing him every day we don't see each other and he's easily the most important thing for me right now.

TL;DR. Anxious dom falls hard for an avoidant sub with attachment issues, stops being dominant in life, dependence reverses, feels terrible. How to save it?