My wife (femdom) and I (malesub) had our first experience with an agreed dom/sub dynamic last night. My wife doesnt want to talk about it or even really acknowledge it. She has always been like this post-sex (18 yrs together). I have always accepted this and do now. However, I am finding I want some aftercare. Not snuggles, or anything tangible like that, but I want to talk about how much i enjoyed it, how it made me feel psychologically, and to discuss further limits i would be open to exploring. For me, i have always had a lot of sex shame from childhood and this is important for me in my process of normalizing my desires and not feel like they need to be a secret. Over the years, my wife has expressed her avoidance of talking post-sex comes from her own shame issues. Anyway, I tried to initiate a talk and she had no interest and clearly felt uncomfortable. I am wondering for those who have mismatched aftercare how do you resolve it so both people get what they need. Especially if one person is the one wanting to be alone and the other isnt?