I (23M) have decided that I was better off being dominant, and more importantly that I have probably always been one... I just got caught up in being a sub because of some trauma and fear there about how a relationship had ended and that towards the end there I was... only getting attention when I had subbed, you know when I considered good attention being about once or twice every six months.

But after a series of events, and some self experimentation as well as some pretty serious reflection I have at least rediscovered my dom side... and it feels like 'home' if that makes any sense.

My question is how do I relearn to be dominant, I know its not just being a hard ass all the time. And there's a lot of work that goes into being a dom. Especially a good one. But I just feel a little lost trying to navigate all these feelings about this. I mean I used to try so hard being a sub that the very *idea* of me being dominant was a disgusting and dirty thought. And now it isn't, cause I am starting to learn my own identity and who I am, especially with in this community. Its just that bad life experiences lead me down the path of lying to myself for years and now I am finally starting to actually come out of my shell and accept that I, as a dom, can have desires like I have and that its okay. They don't make me any less of a dom (despite what my own group insisted and argued with me about).

Any good (and reputable) sources for books and videos about being dominant and how to start this frankly terrifying journey? I know of a few, but I'd like some more as well.