First, let me say that I realize vetting and getting to know Dommes take time.

Second, all subs have the right to choose who they want to be with.

Third, I'm very old fashioned being 42 y/o (Domme) and older than most I meet online. I'm use to a different era of dating/vetting.

Recently I talked with a sub and found out from that she was also talking to and getting to know two other Dommes. That wasn't an issue. The issue was that she was using honor-fics and wanting to play with all of us. Or at least I'm assuming that because she was doing so with me. This made me uncomfortable and just ick. Like being a bull at a rodeo and waiting to find out if I'm the prized bull or not. I felt like less of a person and withdrew from the situation. Is this how vetting and dating with BDSM work nowadays?