Hello, I’m a dude in my 50s, who has been in relationship for 10 years . My partner isn’t into bdsm and I’ve mostly put that on the shelf for the last 10 years. Our relationship is open but I’ve not done much play or looked for it outside of the primary relationship.

Lately I’ve begun to explore, primarily here on Reddit, but it seems most folks just want online experiences which is not very fulfilling to me. Is this unique to Reddit? I’m young enough that most of my experiences over the decades started online but quickly moved to meeting. I’m getting the impression meeting in person is a lot rarer today.

I have accounts on FetLife and another one or two but it still never seems to move to the point of meeting. Anyone else find this dynamic or is it just me?