So me and my gf of 7 years have had a pretty good sex life but I want to open a new dimension to it. We have a solid, quite cutesy relationship so I'm worried it might come if as forced or fake and we wouldn't take each other seriously :D

I get these primal urges every now and then for things like being dominant, physical restraint, inflicting mild pain, spit play, etc. I haven't had much experience and always leaned towards being the "nice guy" in bed. She did have more experience being submissive in previous relationships.

I'm not sure where to begin. With little things during sex or going all out with gear and all that. Any tips on that? Also would love to watch more films like this but everything I find is either too "professional" or too extreme.

We also opened up our relationship gms I think it would be sexy sharing this with other people, but first want to get there with my partner.