Hello, I'm new here and hopefully you all have some wisdom to share. I'm a submissive (mostly) and I'm happy with online only dynamics at the moment. I'm mostly into orgasm control and tease and denial.

I tend to find I have a couple of weeks where I really want to engage with people and then sometimes a month or so when I don't want BDSM in my life. Sometimes I need a break from people online altogether.

The problem is I lose a lot of my connections online in that time away and I'd like someone who knows me well to come back to. Either I feel anxious returning to them or their account has been deleted.

Can the dynamic be less sexually focused sometimes? Has anyone got any experience that helps? I'm sorry it's not a particularly coherent question I'm trying to figure out what I need.