Not too much to say here, just an ask really.

I️ notice that in the femdom world, there’s a specific niche of “gentle femdom” where the femdom community has gone out of its way to ensure there’s a space for dominants and submissives alike who care about the needs of their subs.

In the male space, it’s very harsh. It’s like submission is an excuse to not care about your sub. Almost all the content I️ see is very degrading. Punishment heavy. Beatings. Making submissive women suffer, etc. I️ think to myself: is the point of male domination that a submissive is giving the man a safe space to not care about her? To ignore her needs and use her without regards to her feelings? And that’s the point? And she likes it?

How does that work in real life?

If you’re a sub, does it get you off when he doesn’t care about you? Is that the point? That when he beats you, denies you, punishes you, makes you beg for your needs to be met and he still doesn’t meet them, domesticates and enslaves you, etc, that you enjoy that BECAUSE your needs aren’t being met?

I️ guess from my perspective from what I’ve seen: there’s a distinction between female dominants that do and don’t care about their submissives needs (gentle vs. regular or hardcore femdom), but in the male world, I️ don’t see gentle male domination.

Is a gentle male dominant not really a male dominant and there’s another word for it?

Thank you!