Do we need a better language to describe sexual activity? While "what are your kinks?" is a shorthand that we all understand. There is a huge amount of baggage to the word "kink" The words and ideas surrounding it were born in the victorian age, where they were used as a means to control and subjugate women. 

Why do we have to define our sexuality as normal vs kinky? My sexuality is my sexuality, it doesn't need the heteronormative baggage that declares I need to be ashamed of the parts that aren't missionary position. 

Shame is a very powerful part of some people's sexuality, and that's great, if it gets you off keep at it! But shame shouldn't be used as a weapon to make us ashamed of our identity. 

Do we need a better language? how do you feel that might work? thoughts, comments, or just to tell me I'm an idiot are all welcome!