Hey yall! First of all I’m not a native English speaker, so apologies if my English isn’t that good lol.

So as the title might imply, I’m seeking advice regarding doing “vanilla” dating while being in a 24/7 s/d dynamic. I’m in the “trial” period right now, me and my “soon to be” sub are testing the waters and doing a lot of communication, boundary setting and talking about expectations before committing to this (which will be done properly in person if the vibe is right for both of us). That part of things are going super well, I hope I will be his domme for real soon, he’s already proven himself to be a very good boy <3

We’ve talked a lot about the “monogamy” part of things. If we commit, he will be mine and ONLY mine. He will not have other dommes, he will not date or have sex with others, he’s mine and mine alone. However, I will have the freedom of dating however/whoever I want. I do not want other “lifestyle” subs, but might dominate sexually if agreed upon before/during the date.

My question is this: should I tell my “vanilla” dates that I have a sub? Or is that irrelevant in a more vanilla/casual hookup setting? Of course it will be brought up if my sub want to be involved as a cuck, but if I just want to go on a date and have casual sex, should I then bring it up to my date? This is my first proper experience with 24/7 femdom, and I want to do as good as possible. Obviously I will not share my sexual experiences involving future dates with my sub unless my date agrees to it, I do not involve non-consenting parties into our kink. Of course.

Any advice is appreciated <3