So I've been with my boyfriend in an LDR for 4 months and things are going perfect, except, we're both really kinky and submissive. In the beginning we took the BDSM test and he scored really high in being a rigger and a Dom, but none of that turned out to be true once we met and had sex. Also during our sex talks, I took the initiative once and now he's acting really submissive towards me. When we met he never initiated and even seemed afraid to go full force, I had to take the lead ( and I hate that, I'm a sub who wants to be dominated badly), we didn't have sex often.

We haven't really had any dirty talks in over a month because of our schedules, and yesterday I told him about how much I miss that and we should explore more together. Then he started to send me pictures in submissive poses and being gagged to me. And, I was turned off. I feel so fucking bad. He's perfect in every way and being masochistic is really his thing, but also mine. I don't feel wound up seeing him tied up or begging for mercy. I don't think I can fulfill that Dom role for him. He's perfect in every way, except sexually. Turns out he's more submissive than me? At least it seems like it. I'm a sex maniac and it's quite important to me and honestly I don't know how to move forward without hurting him badly. I want to see what our sex will be like during our second meet up. But if you're a dom, that's naturally already in you and that was nowhere to be found within him I found out. My feelings have changed a bit towards him, because I suddenly realise we're not compatible at all, we both have the same fantasies, but two subs together? Any advice would be greatly appreciated!