I made a post last night asking for tips on how to ask my bf for and explain the pleasure I’d get through bdsm, and to review, he’s had a lot more partners than me, and has always been very vanilla. I suppose I really worded my last post wrong. I don’t want to nor have I tried to convince my bf about bdsm, I’ve never once told him he might like it and I’ve made it very clear if he’s downright uncomfortable and 100% unwilling to try it I would be okay and not bring it up again. The thing is is he never tells me no and never sets that clear boundary, he’s even slapped me during intimacy a few times and he saw how much I enjoyed it. I have no clue what he wants and is okay doing because he always just responds with the same “I don’t want to hurt you” and then ends up surprising me with a random slap sometimes. I just don’t know how to properly explain that I want it to hurt. We both agree we can’t see anyone else and open relationships are not something we are going to be doing, so I’m it sure anymore. Advice is very welcome!