Apologies if this is the wrong sub. I'm wondering if BDSM will help tame things or if it'll make things worse and wondering if anyone's been in a similar situation. My problem is, if I'm not played with for a long time, then I don't feel fulfilled/desired, and if I cum too quickly, it's not enough. I end up wanting more.

Married and been off birth control for what I thought was about a year, it's actually been more like ~18months and my sex drive has been high/difficult for my husband to manage...my doctor thinks it's just high libido as I've had control over allowing this to override other parts of life/responsibilities. I find myself needing release 2-3 times a day....masturbation isn't as fulfilling, or atleast the effects don't seem to last. I need my husband to play with me for a long time, nearly edged to exhaustion to feel satisfied and be "good" for a day or so. BDSM porn is his favorite for a long time and he's interested in voyeurism, so we're explore more and taking things slow. We took a checklist from this sub to identify our preferences. Again, I don't know if this question belongs in this sub, any guidance you can give would be helpful.

Edit to add: I would identify as submissive and a little bratty (the goal is witty/flirty conversation, be praised and spanked, and ofcourse sex)