Hi there

I hope this is a good place to ask these questions. If not, please gently refer me to a better suited reddit 🙏🏻.
I just created an account for my BDSM fetishes & kinks and have to admit, I'm somewhat overwhelmed by the sheer number of BDSM- & kink-related reddits existing, and not quite sure which ones to consider.
I love reading and writing BDSM fantasy stories. The content is rather on the extreme side (torture, scat, vomit), but should be in the realm of technically possible and consensual (both for reading and writing). So to my questions:

1. Can you please recommend a reddit (or other website/forum) where I can read and publish such stories?
2. Since I (sadly 😭) haven't experienced all the things in my own stories myself - would this be a good place to ask about how feasible/realistic some of the scenes are? If not - please recommend where I could sensibly ask such hypothetical questions
3. The open one: if you have any advice regarding stories (reading and/or writing), please do share

Thanks in advance and happy kinking to all of you 🤗

[edit: I added a note informing about crossposting to https://www.reddit.com/r/bdsm/, but since that post got automatically deleted, I've removed the note]