Me (21m) and my gf (21f) have been dating for around 9 months and so far our sex life has been awesome. I’ve been pretty strictly dominant. I train her, tie her up and spank her, hold her down while I fuck her, you get the picture.

It was my birthday recently and my gf said she wanted me to go a few weeks without cumming so my birthday sex would feel more intense. Towards the end of it she would edge me a lot and I could tell she was starting to enjoy seeing me that horny/pentup all the time.

I told her that if she was having me engage in some sort of kink/fetish she needs to tell me instead of just doing it. She admitted that while she likes to be dominated she also ended up really liking orgasm denial and edging and asked if we could implement it into our relationship. One theory I have is that she wants me super horny so I’m rougher with her when we do have sex and am always ready to go since I haven’t been masturbating. Ik I need to just talk to her but I want my thoughts collected first.

Tbh I’ve had femdom fantasies in the past and slightly enjoyed how different it felt to be submissive as opposed to strictly dominant. But I don’t want her to lose respect for me or feel like I’m not as attractive. It’s just kind of breaking my brain cause I’m having trouble viewing being dominant as a shared role. Like if I was with a girl that was strictly dominant I might be able to handle it but the dichotomy feels weird like we’re constantly fighting each other for dominance.

Any tips on how to go about this or view it because it makes it harder to dom my gf when I know she doesn’t feel completely submissive to me sexually. Any ideas for sexy time that are related to this are also welcome.