Hi, I’ve (20M) recently gotten way more into bdsm, it’s the only way i can get off, im really submissive and would love to be in a servant position (i don’t really like the term slave) but my bf (19M) has recently started shutting down all my ideas. At first, he was acting as my dom, like ordering me around and making me address them as my superior but all of the sudden it just stopped without warning. I talked to them about kink things, and if they would want to get more into it, hoping i could finally have a dom, i ask them what they like and would want to do: “i don’t know.” So then i asked them if they were more submissive or dominant, “i think I’m more submissive”. So then a day later, (today) i asked if maybe they’d be interested in finding a dom or something to that degree, not romantically ofc. “I don’t know”. Im losing my mind, I’m hypersexual and the only way to relieve it is to read smut and I’m tired of it!! Any advice?

Tldr: me and my bf are both subs, but they don’t seem to want to do anything about it, any advice?