I have a long-distance DDlg-type dynamic with a lovely little sub who's still quite new at the whole thing. She was a little surprised the first time she dropped, but grew to actually enjoy it because it gives me an opportunity to take care of her. However, now we want to think about a small adjustment, if such a thing is even possible.

Her drop usually takes the form of "I don't like you right now." She doesn't push me away exactly but kinda wants to fight, and resists aftercare a bit. It usually doesn't last long.

Yesterday she told me she doesn't like feeling that way anymore, and wants to feel closer to me, wants to need me, wants to crave aftercare. I'm thinking about how to maybe redirect the way she drops toward me rather than away from me, if that makes sense. Do we need to prepare more pre-play, or is there a magic set of words I can say immediately after to change the way she feels, or ... what? Is this even possible? Anybody have a similar experience?

Thanks in advance, all.