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I'm not sure if this is normal or not and I know each dynamic is different. It comes down to what both people agree to and are happy with. But...
Quick backstory, I'm new to BDSM and got an online Dom a few months ago for the first time. I'm 37f, he's 40m, and has experience as a Dom for 20 years. Within a few days, I started calling him daddy (which I've noticed some people on here say that should take time and it's a concern if the Dom asks for that right away). I sent him some vanilla face pics at the start. Then that night we started playing and I sent him a nude without my face. That's what I normally did at that time anyway because I liked to sext online sometimes. But he said to send it again with my face because I can hide with others but don't hide from daddy. So I started sending nudes and videos with my face. I was a little uncomfortable at first but got used to it.
One main thing that I wonder if I should be concerned with it or not, is that he never sent me any pictures or videos of himself. Is this normal? We met on an app that had a few pics of him. I did a few months in ask for a pic of him because I wanted to see him, and he did send his face once (it matched the person from the app, and was a pic I've never seen). We have talked on the phone many times but never a video call.
I didn't know what I was doing in the beginning. In fact, I'm still learning. Overall, I have felt good about how it's going. He is a very loving and caring daddy. But then sometimes I'll read posts on here about vetting, verification pics, and different things, and I start to wonder if I should be concerned at all with how quickly I trusted him. I think I can trust him with everything I've sent him (it's too late anyway) and I'm aware there are always risks. It's just feels weird that I've never really seen him, he's seen everything of me, and then I see posts on here about different risks and red flags.
Maybe I jumped in too fast but got lucky that it turned out ok?
He also never mentions getting off to the stuff I send him, sometimes I even wonder if he likes it. He will compliment me and stuff though. But I've asked him a little about it and he's said he does rewatch things sometimes before he goes to bed so I assume he's into it. It's just a little weird that it's not as obvious like it is when I've sexted with others.
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