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Recently met someone on a dating app for open relationships and kinky people. We had the same kinks and met up for a couple dates and quickly realized that Were much more in the category of what both of us have been looking for in a longer term life partner type situation.
I have dated a lot been in a lot of long-term relationships and also had a few kinky play partners. But this would be the first romantic relationship. I’m getting into where there’s also a kink aspect involved and that feels confusing. I’m used to the beginnings of romantic relationships feeling a certain way , and having a kink dynamic, namely, with someone who identifies as a daddy Dom, feels a little confusing. For instance, we’ve been dating for about a month and a half, and he wants me to call him daddy. Which, in our situation with a lot of talked about mutual romantic feelings, forming that word feels like saying, I love you, which feels too soon for me. we are both very very excited that we met each other and I guess I’m just not sure how to blend the two things. He has been exploring for the last few years and it has really helped him find his masculinity. He feels like he very much identifies with the parts of being a daddy do that are outside of the bedroom. Caretaking, etc. Just solid masculine qualities to me for someone who identifies as being very soft and feminine, and definitely enjoys being taken care of by a masculine protector type person. It feels like the kink part is pushing the romantic part very quickly, which to be honest, seems OK because we are people in our 40s and both of us feel incredibly aligned, in terms of compatibility and who we are as people and who we are as parents to our own children and things like that, I am just not sure how to navigate the beginnings of a new relationship with a king dynamic mixed in it feels like the lines get very blurry
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