Edit: Thank you for everyone’s responses! What I️ understands ultimately is: this type of play is for women who get off easily. The submissive in me wants to play this way, but it seems like it’s an exclusive playground for subs who orgasm with ease at the hands of their partners, so denial is more trusting and fun. Thanks for everyone’s responses! It was very helpful!

Hello! I️ could use some help on understanding this a bit deeper (maybe it’s because I’m a Woman)

I see this very commonly. Women needing permission to orgasm. Women’s dominants asking them not to orgasm. Women’s dominants asking them to wait to orgasm, cum, etc. even women saying they’re trying so hard not to.

I️ struggle to understand this. Both the appeal of it, and how that’s even possible?

From my perspective, if a man asked me not to orgasm, I️ can snap out of subspace immediately. Like done. My body doesn’t orgasm if I’m not working for it so if you’ve asked me not to, I️ will lose all my momentum and that will be the end of that thread (if that makes sense)

What is the appeal and how is it that you’re trying not to? I️ guess as a woman that doesn’t comprehend in my brain that you can’t just turn it off? Like what do you mean trying not to? Like your body is going to whether you want to or not? Like it feels so good you’re going to orgasm you cannot stop it? I don’t understand how your brain isn’t easily in control of your orgasms. And what’s the appeal of having someone turn it off to begin with? Why work so hard for your orgasm just to tell them not to do it?

Men/people with penises I️ get it more because the physical stimulation etc like it “can’t be helped” kinda vibe.

But with a person with a vagina, it’s something I’d like to understand a little deeper.