So first things first, she herself is not the problem. The problem is that we ended our relationship and I’m thinking of ways to go about it differently.

Some background information first. We were together for about 1Y 3M before we ended our relationship becoming just friends. It initially started as a D/s that quickly evolved into a romantic relationship. Both of us fell hard and fast for each other and for a while it was good. She is trans and started transitioning a few weeks before we made anything official. Before me she had never been in a D/s relationship and never dated a guy, which was part of the problem. The reason we broke up was because she’s not attracted to men, and that’s the only reason. Sex, communication, likes, interest, love, we connected on all fronts except for she wasn’t physically attracted to me because I’m a guy. Honestly that’s why we tried to be just friends is because we couldn’t let each other go, plus I was a huge pillar of her support system. We kept each other grounded.

About a month ago we decided to go no contact for a few weeks to try separating ourselves from our feeling. It was hell for both of us. The second she broke the no contact we were back in our habits though much more defined.

My question, or more idea with her is to go back to being in a d/s relationship though a bit different. After some time reflecting I realized that my love for her was different, it was more like the love for a pet or the love to protect her. Thus spawned my idea of becoming owner and pet. She’s improved so much since we got together and when we separated she completely fell apart, same with me. While things are sort of better, neither of us are really happy like this. So what if we change the nature of our relationship, removing the romantic aspects and thus the need for the attraction. I know much more difficult in practice than theory.

Honestly this is probably just my naïveté speaking, desperate to reclaim what I lost, but I think it could work. Even when we were romantically involved, things were going to be rocky. I wanted to eventually get married and have kids, she doesn’t want either of those. Plus like I said earlier my love for her feels more like that for a pet rather than a girlfriend or wife.

I haven’t told her about this idea yet as I’m not fully convinced it’ll work but I want to at least try something. Doms and subs of Reddit, what do you think? Is this a good idea or am I just kidding myself?