So I’m/sub (F) seeing my boyfriend/Dom (M) and it’s his birthday this weekend! I’m planning a very vanilla weekend for the most part but we’re staying overnight and I’m sure we’ll be intimate.

He’s tasked me with ensuring his pleasure regarding intimacy but honestly I’m stuck on how to do that as a submissive :/ He usually kissing me or instructing me on where to start. I chip in throughout but I’m just not sure where to start so thought I’d get some advice.

Accommodation is booked so it can’t be anything structural eg St Andrews Cross.

I’ve bought some new lingerie but that’s about it…

Any ideas of how to structure an overnight trip? We’re going out for food etc but he has mentioned wanting to be up overnight having sex.

I’m sure we’ll do our typical spanking/ restraint/ edging etc. but I’m stuck on how to initiate and get the ball rolling. Plus I’m not a Domme at all and that wouldn’t work for us, so I’m really stuck.

Extra question for Doms- if your sub is leading (but not leading) is there anything that’s turn you on?

Limits: permanent stuff eg tattoos, bodily fluids, anal, DDLG

Thank you!