So, my partner is having her orgasm denied for a while now, but there isn't much structure into it. She cums when I say she can and that's it.

I was hoping to change that a bit, so I had an idea. Since we had 3 months left for the year, I thought it would be a great idea to select 3 random dates to allow her to cum. Now, I decided to tell her one day at a time, and she wasn't allowed to write it down. She had to remember it. The day of the first one is tomorrow and she's forgotten it. Obviously she's upset about it.

I'm torn into telling her, and changing how it works, or letting her lose it and double down.

Here's what I'm thinking in regards to options. 1. Tell her and let her write down. 2. Don't let her write down but let it "slip" mid conversation. 3. Tell her about 10 minutes to midnight where she can but she'll have to wake up and warm up in a very short time. 4. Don't tell her until the following day, but focus on find a way to engraving the next day in her mind. Like making her do lines, or have a spanking session where between each smack, she has to tell me the date.

I'm very open to advices and suggestions.

Thank you